How can you fight back? "Ground yourself in your own reality--sometimes writing things down as they happened, telling a friend, or reiterating your experience to a support network can help to counteract the gaslighting effect
You know when toxic people claim all the nastiness is not their fault, but yours? That's called projection. The solution? "Don't 'project' your own sense of compassion or empathy onto a toxic person and don't own any of the toxic person's projections either
Changing the subject
"Narcissists don't want you to be on the topic of holding them accountable for anything. "Continue stating the facts without giving in to their distractions. Redirect their redirection by saying, 'That's not what I am talking about. Let's stay focused on the real issue.'
Beware when a colleague seems to love you while aggressively denigrating the last person who held your position."Be wary of the fact that how a person treats or speaks about someone else could potentially translate into the way they will treat you in the future,"
"Covert narcissists enjoy making malicious remarks at your expense. These are usually dressed up as 'just jokes'Don't let the office abuser gaslight you into thinking it was all innocent fun--it wasn't.
Just because you've been dealing with this bully doesn't make it any less destructiveSimply don't tolerate it. "It's important to end any interaction that consists of name-calling and communicate that you won't tolerate it,"