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By Ramsha Nayab

Feb 23, 2023

Bad Dating Advice You Must Not Follow

“It will happen when you least expect it.”

It’s important to recognise that healthy, lasting relationships don’t just “happen” to people. They grow through building connections, learning through experience and refining your dating and relationship skills over time.

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“Play hard to get – Treat them mean, keep them keen.”

Truth be told, it’s a great strategy if you want to attract someone who is emotionally unavailable. Playing hard to get will make avoidants feel safe to pursue you – that is until they get a whiff of intimacy in the making – then they’ll usually start running for the hills!

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“Your perfect match is out there”

n this digital age of what seems like limitless possibilities, sometimes we need a reality check; there is no such thing as a perfect person or a perfect partner. Yet, sometimes we can be quick to dismiss a prospect because they don’t make a ‘perfect’ first impression.

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“When you know, you know.”

The problem with this vague advice  is that it pushes people to look for strong feelings which can lead people to get caught up in the infatuation of the honeymoon period when it’s really too early to tell.

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“Just be yourself”

Aside from this being bad advice because, again, it’s so damn vague, the truth is sometimes “being yourself” can mean staying in your comfort zone and repeating past mistakes. If you feel stuck in your love life or notice a pattern e.g. attracting unavailable people, then just being your same old self isn’t going to cut it.

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If They Aren’t Marriage Material, Move On

The problem is people are looking way too far down the line. Let me tell you a secret: the best, hottest, most spontaneous, sexiest, most fun, interesting, or challenging relationships are often not the longest.

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